Okay, FYI NSFW content ahead (I’m on my phone so I can’t do a read more)
I’m all for BDSM. It’s something I enjoy. So yes I do follow a few BDSM blogs but I am so DISAPPOINTED in the majority of them. Like many of them don’t give a shit about safe words which are really important. These blogs think that safe words are for people who “can’t go all the way”. And it makes me so mad. Like the whole point is not to dive in completely. Like anything in life you have to build up to the bigger things and if you’re not ready then it’s okay! Don’t let anyone coerce you into doing something you are not comfortable with. If they really care about you they will help you build to it.
Speaking of that, there are some men who think all women should be submissive to them. And I think that’s bullshit. Don’t just assume any random woman wants your dick and will let you tie her up and rough fuck her. How about chatting and getting to know a person first? If that woman just wants to be a fuck hole she will tell you! But don’t assume every woman wants that!
Also I see a lot of posts about what a “true submissive” is. And it irks me. I think because I feel BDSM is what you want it to be. There are no categories that you have to fit into completely.
Lastly (and this is specific), I saw an anon ask a male blogger “does it matter what age your pet is?” And he replied that it’s all a matter for mental maturity. And this infuriated me! Age does fucking matter! Anyone under the age of 18 should not be involved in BDSM. And I’m only saying this because while a 16 year old may seem very mature they are still growing up and dealing with shit. They haven’t even fully developed mentally! And if they get mixed in with the wrong kind of Dom they could get permanently messed up. It is a Dom’s responsibility to take care of this. If a potential sub comes to them and they are not of age yet then it is THEIR responsibility to say no. And if they are a good Dom, they will.
ALL OF THIS.